Friday, October 16, 2009

Talked to my dad for the first time in 11 years today.

Saturday, September 26, 2009

Tuesday, September 1, 2009

Monday, August 31, 2009

Friday, August 28, 2009

Will be offline untill the first! The move has begun! First night in new house tommorow!!

Saturday, August 22, 2009

Tuesday, August 11, 2009

Also need to get a used washer and dryer. Any ideas?
Going to need to find a cheep twin bed and matress for kiddo seeing as she has outgrown her toddler bed and will have her own room.
Signed my new lease today. 8/29/09 I have my own home!!!!!!
Got the duplex! Heights here I come!!!

Wednesday, August 5, 2009

Sunday, June 28, 2009

Sunday, June 14, 2009

Friday, June 12, 2009

The stress is really getting to me. And two nights in a row Madison skipped dinner, had a fit, and was sent to bed.

Monday, June 8, 2009

Guten nacht.


<3 had a good day with rog
Ever notice how when things are really f'd up it seems to get exponentially worse as you wait for the chance to fix it?

Thursday, June 4, 2009

Very bad last couple days. Got to go file charges against my mom's husband in the morning.

Tuesday, June 2, 2009

Second day back, and the market fashion manager comes in. Oivey.
I hate early mornings

Monday, June 1, 2009

Today sucked. Work@ 7 all week, unless Danny changes his mind.
Had a great day with Rog yesterday, today it's back to work. Oh yea. Not.

Sunday, May 31, 2009

Reading cross bones. Tempe Brennan, Jews,JC, and intreague.

Now that's a good read!
Guten tag
Buongiorno

Good day

Saturday, May 30, 2009

Bouna notte.
Buenas noches.
Guten nacht.

Goodnight. Sleep tight.
Played outside today.
It's chilly for late may
Cell phones: $30-$100 a month
Evian: $1.49
Beer: $7-$15
Pack of smokes $5.90

Late night conversations with your partner in crime/lover: priceless


<3. Roger's 4 am wake ups.
Being treasured rocks

Friday, May 29, 2009

Thursday, May 28, 2009

Goes back to work Monday @ 7 am
Doesn't understand why Madison is being so bad today.
Rude awakening: four year old throwing herself at your head.

Wednesday, May 27, 2009

Wednesday, May 20, 2009

Saturday, March 21, 2009

ENFP 2

Extraverted iNtuitive Feeling Perceiving

by Joe Butt

ENFPs are friendly folks. Most are really enjoyable people. Some of the most soft-hearted people are ENFPs.

ENFPs have what some call a "silly switch." They can be intellectual, serious, all business for a while, but whenever they get the chance, they flip that switch and become CAPTAIN WILDCHILD, the scourge of the swimming pool, ticklers par excellence. Som etimes they may even appear intoxicated when the "switch" is flipped.

One study has shown that ENFPs are significantly overrepresented in psychodrama. Most have a natural propensity for role-playing and acting.

ENFPs like to tell funny stories, especially about their friends. This penchant may be why many are attracted to journalism. I kid one of my ENFP friends that if I want the sixth fleet to know something, I'll just tell him.

ENFPs are global learners. Close enough is satisfactory to the ENFP, which may unnerve more precise thinking types, especially with such things as piano practice ("three quarter notes or four ... what's the difference?") Amazingly, some ENFPs are adept at exacting disciplines such as mathematics.

Friends are what life is about to ENFPs, moreso even than the other NFs. They hold up their end of the relationship, sometimes being victimized by less caring individuals. ENFPs are energized by being around people. Some have real difficulty being alone , especially on a regular basis.

One ENFP colleague, a social worker, had such tremendous interpersonal skills that she put her interviewers at ease during her own job interview. She had the ability to make strangers feel like old friends.

ENFPs sometimes can be blindsided by their secondary Feeling function. Hasty decisions based on deeply felt values may boil over with unpredictable results. More than one ENFP has abruptly quit a job in such a moment.



ENFP 1

Profile: ENFP
Revision: 3.0
Date of Revision: 25 Feb 2005


[The following comes partially from the archetype, but mostly from my own dealings with ENFPs.]

General: ENFPs are both "idea"-people and "people"-people, who see everyone and everything as part of an often bizarre cosmic whole. They want to both help (at least, their own definition of "help") and be liked and admired by other people, on bo th an individual and a humanitarian level. They are interested in new ideas on principle, but ultimately discard most of them for one reason or another.

Social/Personal Relationships: ENFPs have a great deal of zany charm, which can ingratiate them to the more stodgy types in spite of their unconventionality. They are outgoing, fun, and genuinely like people. As SOs/mates they are warm, affectionate (l ots of PDA), and disconcertingly spontaneous. However, attention span in relationships can be short; ENFPs are easily intrigued and distracted by new friends and acquaintances, forgetting about the older ones for long stretches at a time. Less mature ENFPs may need to feel they are the center of attention all the time, to reassure them that everyone thinks they're a wonderful and fascinating person.

ENFPs often have strong, if unconvential, convictions on various issues related to their Cosmic View. They usually try to use their social skills and contacts to persuade people gently of the rightness of these views; his sometimes results in their negle cting their nearest and dearest while flitting around trying to save the world.
Work Environment: ENFPs are pleasant, easygoing, and usually fun to work with. They come up with great ideas, and are a major asset in brainstorming sessions. Followthrough tends to be a problem, however; they tend to get bored quickly, especially if a newer, more interesting project comes along. They also tend to be procrastinators, both about meeting hard deadlines and about performing any small, uninteresting tasks that they've been assigned. ENFPs are at their most useful when working in a group w ith a J or two to take up the slack.

ENFPs hate bureaucracy, both in principle and in practice; they will always make a point of launching one of their crusades against some aspect of it.



champion

Idealist Portrait of the Champion (ENFP)

Like the other Idealists, Champions are rather rare, say two or three percent of the population, but even more than the others they consider intense emotional experiences as being vital to a full life. Champions have a wide range and variety of emotions, and a great passion for novelty. They see life as an exciting drama, pregnant with possibilities for both good and evil, and they want to experience all the meaningful events and fascinating people in the world. The most outgoing of the Idealists, Champions often can't wait to tell others of their extraordinary experiences. Champions can be tireless in talking with others, like fountains that bubble and splash, spilling over their own words to get it all out. And usually this is not simple storytelling; Champions often speak (or write) in the hope of revealing some truth about human experience, or of motivating others with their powerful convictions. Their strong drive to speak out on issues and events, along with their boundless enthusiasm and natural talent with language, makes them the most vivacious and inspiring of all the types.

Fiercely individualistic, Champions strive toward a kind of personal authenticity, and this intention always to be themselves is usually quite attractive to others. At the same time, Champions have outstanding intuitive powers and can tell what is going on inside of others, reading hidden emotions and giving special significance to words or actions. In fact, Champions are constantly scanning the social environment, and no intriguing character or silent motive is likely to escape their attention. Far more than the other Idealists, Champions are keen and probing observers of the people around them, and are capable of intense concentration on another individual. Their attention is rarely passive or casual. On the contrary, Champions tend to be extra sensitive and alert, always ready for emergencies, always on the lookout for what's possible.

Champions are good with people and usually have a wide range of personal relationships. They are warm and full of energy with their friends. They are likable and at ease with colleagues, and handle their employees or students with great skill. They are good in public and on the telephone, and are so spontaneous and dramatic that others love to be in their company. Champions are positive, exuberant people, and often their confidence in the goodness of life and of human nature makes good things happen.

Joan Baez, Phil Donahue, Paul Robeson, Bill Moyer, Elizibeth Cady Stanton, Joeseph Campbell, Edith Wharton, Sargent Shriver, Charles Dickens, and Upton Sinclair are examples of Idealist Champions



About Idealists

All Idealists (NFs) share the following core characteristics:

  • Idealists are enthusiastic, they trust their intuition, yearn for romance, seek their true self, prize meaningful relationships, and dream of attaining wisdom.
  • Idealists pride themselves on being loving, kindhearted, and authentic.
  • Idealists tend to be giving, trusting, spiritual, and they are focused on personal journeys and human potentials.
  • Idealists make intense mates, nurturing parents, and inspirational leaders.
Idealists, as a temperament, are passionately concerned with personal growth and development. Idealists strive to discover who they are and how they can become their best possible self -- always this quest for self-knowledge and self-improvement drives their imagination. And they want to help others make the journey. Idealists are naturally drawn to working with people, and whether in education or counseling, in social services or personnel work, in journalism or the ministry, they are gifted at helping others find their way in life, often inspiring them to grow as individuals and to fulfill their potentials.

Idealists are sure that friendly cooperation is the best way for people to achieve their goals. Conflict and confrontation upset them because they seem to put up angry barriers between people. Idealists dream of creating harmonious, even caring personal relations, and they have a unique talent for helping people get along with each other and work together for the good of all. Such interpersonal harmony might be a romantic ideal, but then Idealists are incurable romantics who prefer to focus on what might be, rather than what is. The real, practical world is only a starting place for Idealists; they believe that life is filled with possibilities waiting to be realized, rich with meanings calling out to be understood. This idea of a mystical or spiritual dimension to life, the "not visible" or the "not yet" that can only be known through intuition or by a leap of faith, is far more important to Idealists than the world of material things.

Highly ethical in their actions, Idealists hold themselves to a strict standard of personal integrity. They must be true to themselves and to others, and they can be quite hard on themselves when they are dishonest, or when they are false or insincere. More often, however, Idealists are the very soul of kindness. Particularly in their personal relationships, Idealists are without question filled with love and good will. They believe in giving of themselves to help others; they cherish a few warm, sensitive friendships; they strive for a special rapport with their children; and in marriage they wish to find a "soulmate," someone with whom they can bond emotionally and spiritually, sharing their deepest feelings and their complex inner worlds.

Idealists are relatively rare, making up no more than 15 to 20 percent of the population. But their ability to inspire people with their enthusiasm and their idealism has given them influence far beyond their numbers.

Princess Diana, Joan Baez, Albert Schweitzer, Bill Moyers, Eleanor Roosevelt, Mohandas Gandhi, Mikhael Gorbachev, and Oprah Winfrey are examples of Idealists.

A full description of the Idealist is in People Patterns or Please Understand Me II

A List of Famous Idealists

Idealist Quotes

Idealists as Mates

The four types of Idealists are:

Champion | Counselor | Healer | Teacher



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Idealists, as a temperament, are passionately concerned with personal growth and development. Idealists strive to discover who they are and how they can become their best possible self -- always this quest for self-knowledge and self-improvement drives their imagination. And they want to help others make the journey. Idealists are naturally drawn to working with people, and whether in education or counseling, in social services or personnel work, in journalism or the ministry, they are gifted at helping others find their way in life, often inspiring them to grow as individuals and to fulfill their potentials.

Idealists are sure that friendly cooperation is the best way for people to achieve their goals. Conflict and confrontation upset them because they seem to put up angry barriers between people. Idealists dream of creating harmonious, even caring personal relations, and they have a unique talent for helping people get along with each other and work together for the good of all. Such interpersonal harmony might be a romantic ideal, but then Idealists are incurable romantics who prefer to focus on what might be, rather than what is. The real, practical world is only a starting place for Idealists; they believe that life is filled with possibilities waiting to be realized, rich with meanings calling out to be understood. This idea of a mystical or spiritual dimension to life, the "not visible" or the "not yet" that can only be known through intuition or by a leap of faith, is far more important to Idealists than the world of material things.

Highly ethical in their actions, Idealists hold themselves to a strict standard of personal integrity. They must be true to themselves and to others, and they can be quite hard on themselves when they are dishonest, or when they are false or insincere. More often, however, Idealists are the very soul of kindness. Particularly in their personal relationships, Idealists are without question filled with love and good will. They believe in giving of themselves to help others; they cherish a few warm, sensitive friendships; they strive for a special rapport with their children; and in marriage they wish to find a "soulmate," someone with whom they can bond emotionally and spiritually, sharing their deepest feelings and their complex inner worlds.

Idealists are relatively rare, making up no more than 15 to 20 percent of the population. But their ability to inspire people with their enthusiasm and their idealism has given them influence far beyond their numbers.

Idealists at Work
Idealists, as a temperament, are passionately concerned with personal growth and development. They are naturally drawn to working with people and are gifted with helping others find their way in life, often inspiring them to grow as individuals and to fulfill their potential both on, and off, the job.

Conscience looms large for you; in almost any situation, you feel compelled to measure yourself, other people, and the conditions of the environment against your personal morality. You have a tendency to perceive questions of meaning in even trivial matters and to worry about far-flung consequences of your actions. In your ideal job, you are free to pursue depth rather than breadth and quality rather than quantity. You feel rewarded when your projects and daily tasks allow you to immerse yourself in your process as deeply as you "need to" in order to satisfy your inner standards of quality. You are uncomfortable with the notion of authority per se and may avoid leading, as well as being led, either consciously or unconsciously. As you experience them, adhering to fixed roles and rules amounts to an abdication of your responsibility to exercise your conscience.



Thursday, January 8, 2009

Extraversion


































Introduction to Extraversion

Some
days you want to hang out by yourself, not answer the phone, and make
the world go away. The next day you e-mail everyone, schedule lunch
with a friend, and try to find an evening gathering to take part in. It
may be the phases of the moon, or something you ate; some days are just
like that. In actuality, your desire to be with others or to be alone
reflects something deep in your personality. Some of us are more
comfortable by ourselves or with one or two friends, while others of us
crave the crowd and can't stand it when the house is empty or the phone
doesn't ring. The following paragraphs describe your fundamental
desires about being with other people; whether you are generally an
outgoing person or more reserved, if you seek adventures with others,
if you tend toward assertiveness or kindness.


When it comes to Extraversion you are:

VERY OUTGOING


Words that describe you:










  • Sociable
  • Outgoing
  • Energetic


  • Lively
  • Communicative
  • Warm


  • Uninhibited
  • Assertive
  • Friendly





A General Description of How You Interact with Others

You
are a very sociable person, enjoy spending time with other people, and
seek their company. You are probably uncomfortable with an empty
calendar or an empty house. You like coming home to your family or your
roommate, but not to a dark living room when no one is there. You are
very outgoing; you seek out other people, arrange activities, organize
gatherings, anything that gives you an opportunity to be with your
friends. And when you're with them, you are full of energy. You add
liveliness to any situation. You talk and listen, participate in
whatever the activity is "a sport or a party or a walk in the woods"
and come away from such experiences pumped up by the time spent
together.

You especially like to talk with your friends. You
bring energy and genuine interest to almost any conversation. When they
speak, you listen; and then you are eager to have your say as well. You
know how to connect in a conversation, using your energy, your
vocabulary, and your genuine interest in being with the other person.
You are at your best and are happiest in these experiences of real
communication.

One more thing about you. When you are in
these experiences of real communication with others, you really know
how to let yourself go. When you talk, when you play, when you
participate in some activity, you are unrestrained. You give all that
you've got to these moments, and because you like the experience so
much, your warmth comes through. It is clear to whomever you're with
that you're glad to be in just this situation. In these warm, wide-open
moments, you are you at your best.



Negative Reactions Others May Have Toward You

Not
everyone will enjoy being with you. Because you are so outgoing, those
who want their share of the time in a conversation or who think their
contribution is worthy of as much focus as yours my find you too much
to take. "Talks way too much, and always wants to be the center of
attention" is a phrase others may use about you, sometimes to your
face, though more often behind your back. And some people simply might
get fed up with you.

Also, those whose personality is
quieter, whose idea of a good conversation is more low-key,
low-intensity, low-volume, may find they want some distance from you.
For them, you suck up too much of the air in the room, and they need to
walk away to breathe more comfortably. They might not say anything,
after all, they're not as communicative as you are, but by their
distance or their absence they'll let you know that sometimes you're
more than they can or want to handle. How you choose to respond will
likely depend on the situation but it is important for you to realize
some people may have this sort of response to you.



Positive Responses Others May Have Toward You

On
the other hand, many people will enjoy your company immensely. Your
warmth and liveliness will attract them to you, and your ability to
communicate with such unrestrained energy will draw them in and keep
them interested. They will appreciate your willingness to take the
initiative in planning an event or leading a conversation, and because
you come alive in a group you will make any social situation more fun
and more interesting for everyone involved.

If you sometimes
go over the top: talk too much, insist too intently on your own
opinions, get someone involved in an adventure that may be out of their
usual realm of behaviors, people who know you well will probably cut
you some slack because they understand that when you get wound up you
sometimes don't stop. It's just lively, energetic, outgoing you who
makes life so much more interesting for your friends.

Conscientiousness


































Introduction to Conscientiousness

It's
a work day, breakfast is over, and you're dressed and ready. So how
will you approach the tasks at hand? Some people work best with a clear
schedule, a set of priorities and a due date for every step in the
process. Others are, shall we say, less regimented. They approach a
task with as much imagination as organization, and with a willingness
to bend and modify in order to exercise some urge of creativity.


How about you? Do you walk in a straight line toward a clear goal, or
are you more likely to dance your way down whatever path will get you
wherever it is you're headed? The following paragraphs describe ways in
which you approach the tasks life brings to you, and to what extent you
are focused or flexible in how you choose to proceed.




Your approach toward your obligations is:
FOCUSED AND FLEXIBLE

Words that describe you:










  • Casual
  • Informal
  • Compliant


  • Reliable
  • Organized
  • Solid


  • Dependable
  • Uncommitted
  • Genuine





A General Description of How You Interact with Others

When
you take on a task at work or at home, you are reliable; you get the
job done. In an organized way, you define the goal, lay out a plan,
figure how long the task will take, and get to work "solid and
dependable you".

But and this is important you're not a slave
to the plan. You're committed to it, but not chained to it; the
connection is more casual and informal. You know that sometimes "the
best laid plans" fall off the tracks; when this happens, you clean up
the train wreck and start over, undeterred.

Though not
happening often, when plans change, you're okay with it. In fact,
sometimes you change the plan. It's too nice of a Saturday to finish
organizing the garage. Let's go for a bike ride instead. True, the next
rainy Saturday will likely find you back in the garage, but for now the
work can wait.

What an interesting combination of qualities
in you're organized, but casual; solid, but compliant; and dependable,
but informal. At home and at work, people know they can rely on you.
You take great satisfaction in knowing that people think of you as
disciplined and responsible, but you also know that you have something
of a free spirit in you, and when this spirit moves you, off you go,
following the impulse of the moment. You are rightly proud of your work
ethic, but you also enjoy your willingness to lay the tools down, crank
up the music and play like a child.



Negative Reactions Others May Have Toward You

Some
people live like Marines: duty-bound, disciplined and driven. To these
people you might seem uncommitted; where they would never leave work
for play or change plans in the middle of their life's forced march,
you let the circumstance sway you and move in a different direction,
and they don't understand.

Others live like kites on a
string, attached by thin threads to the solid ground of responsibility
and are blown about by every gust of impulse or imagination. To these
people you might seem too cowardly, like you'll flirt with your
impulses but never give in fully, play on a Saturday but never blow of
the entire work-week to "follow your bliss".

While these
Marines and kite-flyers might look down on you for your combination of
focus and flexibility, others might be envious. They can't free
themselves from a sense that they're not doing enough, or from the
equally frustrating feeling that they're not free enough.

And
here you are with your accomplishments and your pleasures, getting the
job done but also getting your hair blown back as you run with the
wind. As far as these people are concerned, you're lucky you've got the
best of both of the worlds in which they feel they fail.



Positive Responses Others May Have Toward You

What
a great life you have, and a great attitude to boot. You know when to
buckle down and push ahead to get the job done, and you do it well. You
know when to lay the tools of your trade aside, grab your kite and head
for the meadow where you can run with the wind. Many people will see
and admire in you this lovely combination of a person who can focus,
but who is flexible enough to know when to let the spirit move you in
some new and livelier direction.

It's a life they aspire to,
and they delight in seeing it played out in your life. They may ask
your advice and turn you into a mentor of the full and balanced
experience. They will want to know how you do it, what the costs are,
and if you get frightened that you're not working hard enough or
playing often enough. They may make you think about your own life more
than you have, so you can share it with those who want to emulate this
balance between flexibility and focus. They may be correct lucky you!

Emotional Stablility


































Introduction to Emotional Stability

We're
born with the capacity to feel deeply, so it's as natural as breathing
to experience a range of emotions. Fear and joy and sadness, anger and
shame and disgust lie somewhere within each of us. Ah, but to what
extent do we control these emotions, and to what extent do they control
us? How you answer this question of how your emotions play out in your
life has a great deal to do with your levels of personal satisfaction
and with the character of your relationships with others. Do you manage
your emotions well, keeping them in check with your thinking and your
willpower, or are you someone who lets emotions have their way, giving
in to the wild dance of feelings? The following paragraphs describe
your emotional range in terms of being a person who is emotionally
steady or someone who is responsive to whatever feelings swell up in
you.


On Emotional Stability you are:

SOMETIMES STEADY, SOMETIMES RESPONSIVE


Words that describe you:










  • Adaptable
  • Engaged
  • Able to Cope


  • Passionate
  • Perceptive
  • Flexible


  • Receptive
  • Aware
  • Avid





A General Description of Your Reactivity

In
some ways, you've got the best of emotional worlds. When emotions rise
up from inside you or are brought forth from a conversation by a
friend, you know how to engage them. You deal with sadness, fear, joy,
anger - whatever comes up - in ways that are perceptive and flexible.
You can adapt to whatever level of emotion is appropriate to the
moment. At other times, you are able to cope with your emotions in a
more reserved manner. Because you are aware of what does and does not
make emotional sense in a particular situation, you will decide when it
is an appropriate time to express your emotions and when it would be
best to keep them to yourself.

All of this gives you a rich
emotional life. You are free to express your passions about certain
subjects with appropriate people. But you are also emotionally
adaptable; if the conversation needs to be more cerebral, you'll keep
it "in your head" and talk calmly through whatever issue is on the
table. This emotional awareness serves you well. You seldom get in over
your head, either by opening up to the wrong person or by triggering in
someone else's emotions they may not be able to deal with.



Negative Reactions Others May Have Toward You

When
it comes to dealing with emotions we all meet some people with whom we
don't match well. You bring a balanced approach to your emotional life.
As such, those who are at the extremes are most likely to have a
negative reaction to you. Those who live in their emotions may feel you
tend to "live in your head" while those who go through life as an
emotional rock may feel that you are a bit too "touchy feely" for their
approach.

And of course it is always possible that because you
do balance your emotional approach to life you may misread others - we
all do at times. So there have undoubtedly been those times when you
have misread cues and stayed in your head with someone who hoped for a
more open emotional approach or you may have opened up emotionally with
someone who keeps their emotions bottled up. But these things happen
and since you do have a good balance of being in touch with your
emotions and not being overly impacted by emotional swings, you
undoubtedly are able to adapt.

Another potential problem is
that as people get to know you well, they will discover that you have a
great balance between emotional expression and emotional control. If
they don't have this balance they may wind up envying you. They can't
express feelings as well as you, or they are too often out of emotional
control and resent you for your ability to cope so well with the very
emotions that may trip them up.



Positive Responses Others May Have Toward You

Many
people will be grateful to find a friend like you who can stay in
control when emotions verge on chaos, but who can also go into the
tangle of emotions when it is safe and appropriate to do so. Because of
your ability to engage them at whatever level they are comfortable, to
adapt to whatever changes in emotion emerge in the conversation, and to
cope so well with all of it - well, they'll be very glad they found a
person like you. You may, in fact, wind up as something of an emotional
mentor. Your awareness of the emotional temperature of a situation,
your ability to adapt to either heat or cold, and your ability to cope
with whatever winds up happening in the conversation could be models
for them to follow as they come to terms with their own emotional
worlds.

Openness


































Introduction to Openness

How
firmly committed are you to the ideas and beliefs that govern your
thinking and guide your behavior? Some people trust their current ideas
and beliefs the way a climber trusts the mountain; whichever way they
move, whether the climb is on a familiar trail or over new ground,
there is something solid beneath them, something they count on.


For others, new ideas, new solutions to old problems, new beliefs that
replace tired convictions are like welcome wind in their sails. They
can hardly wait to tack in a new direction and ride a new idea through
uncharted waters. If it's new, it's interesting, and they're ready to
explore.

The following paragraphs describe your responses to
new ways of thinking and believing. How do you handle new information?
Are you more like the climber on a familiar mountain or a sailor with a
tiller in hand and a fresh breeze to propel you? How you integrate and
process new information about the world and about others is a core
aspect of your personality.



On the Openness Dimension you are:

VERY CURIOUS


Words that describe you:










  • Imaginative
  • Creative
  • Intellectual


  • Adventurous
  • Unconventional
  • Artistic


  • Progressive
  • Daring
  • Inspired






A General Description of How You Approach New Information and Experiences

You
are a very creative and imaginative person who is especially open to
new ideas or new ways of thinking about old problems. You love to
approach a conventional idea or a traditional way of doing things by
walking around to the other side and explore it from a novel
perspective. What's new is what interests you. Like an artist looking
for a new way to see, you focus your imagination on envisioning ideas,
events or problems in completely original ways. You are intellectually
progressive, which means you like to think and feel your way into
unexplored landscapes where you let your sense of intellectual
adventure romp freely.

Because you are so curious you can also
be very teachable. You learn from personal and interpersonal
experiences as well as from classrooms and textbooks. You crave new
information, and toss and turn it in your vivid imagination. When you
come across an idea from someone else or a thought in your own head
that is particularly provocative or original, you light up. With wit
and wisdom, Dr. Seuss describes you like this: "Think left and think
right and think low and think high. Oh, the thinks you can think up if
only you try!"




Negative Reactions Others May Have Toward Your Style of Thinking

Not
everyone will be thrilled by your adventurous mind. Many people are
content with the ideas that have served them and their culture well,
and with visions they've grown accustomed to of what is and is not
true. They're not lit up at the prospect of moving out of their comfort
zone. Others are afraid of new ways of thinking and creative ways of
solving problems because they are somewhat fragile in the sense that
they have trouble maintaining serenity in their current worlds and
don't want someone, like you, for instance, pushing out the edges of
their intellectual and cultural cosmos. So don't be surprised if your
unconventional ideas sometimes get you criticized, or if some people
walk away from the explorations of new territories of the mind that you
find so exhilarating.



Positive Responses Others May Have Toward You

Despite
some negative responses to your style of thinking, many people will
find your progressive thoughts and vivid imagination quite attractive.
Some will find your openness to new ways of thinking and your
willingness to explore what others shy away from a very compelling
quality. Other creative souls will find in you a companion on the
journey into the unknown, and will welcome the camaraderie.
Conversations with them will be lively and innovative and will ignite
your imagination, and theirs. Even some who are less curious than you
will be impressed by your courage to think and believe what is for them
unimaginable, and by your willingness to go on adventures of the mind
that they would find dangerous or daunting. For these people you might
become a mentor into the wilder side of thinking and believing, and
nudge them toward the creative and progressive ideas that you find so
interesting.


Agreeableness


































Introduction to Agreeableness

This
section of your profile describes your interactions with other people.
The ways we communicate our feelings, beliefs and ideas to others are
influenced by our cultural backgrounds, the way we were raised, and
sometimes which side of the bed we got up on this morning. Some of us
are very mindful of others making decisions we hope will be in their
best interests, even if it means sometimes neglecting our own
interests. Others of us believe each person should be responsible for
themselves, taking deep pride in our own character and independence
with a firm belief that others are best served by doing the same. The
following describes how you engage with others; illustrating the
dimension of your personality that determines your independence or your
desire to reach out and touch others in meaningful ways.




You are best described as:


USUALLY TAKING CARE OF OTHERS


Words that describe you:











  • Understanding
  • Unquestioning
  • Humane


  • Selfless
  • Gentle
  • Kindhearted


  • Gullible
  • Indulgent



A General Description of How You Interact with Others


Here's
one important truth about you: you have a tender heart. Yes, you know
that others need to learn to take care of themselves. Yes, you know
they need to accept the consequences of their foolish or bad behavior.
And sometimes, even when your instinct is to help them, you will let
them fend for themselves and let them suffer the consequences of their
choices or circumstances.

But most of the time you are there to
help when they need you. If they are in trouble, you offer compassion
and go out of your way to be helpful. If they need someone who will
listen, you are trustworthy and sympathetic. And you are direct with
them; when they need advice or counsel, you offer it in a
straightforward, direct manner, without beating around the bush.


You're also smart enough to know that you cannot take good care of
others if you fail to take good care of yourself, so you listen to your
own wants and needs. If you've run out of sympathetic energy, you spend
time restoring yourself. If you've ignored your own pain or
frustration, you find a friend who will listen well, or go into your
own private healing place and give yourself permission to focus on you.


But before long, you're back at it with your friends, offering
a sympathetic ear and compassion on which they learn to trust, also
giving straightforward advice and counsel when they ask for it. You do
know how to take care of yourself, but your genuine interest is in
taking care of others.



Negative Reactions Others May Have Toward You


Selfish
people might be embarrassed by you. While they're using their time and
energy almost exclusively on themselves, they see you giving time to
others, and your kindness puts them in a bad light.

Maybe
they'll think you're a phony, that you use your altruism to get others
indebted to you so they'll then owe you a favor. Or perhaps they'll
accuse you, directly or behind your back, of focusing on the needs of
others so no one ever focuses on your foibles or your genuine wounds.


All of these are false accusations; yours is a genuine compassion,
because you truly have a tender heart. One criticism might be more
substantial, though. People might notice when you let things get out of
balance and spend so much time responding to others that you neglect
your own needs.

Perhaps it's true to some extent that you are
more comfortable when the focus is on someone else's needs than when
you and your needs are front and center, and this may be a criticism
worth paying attention to.



Positive Responses Others May Have Toward You


Positive
responses to you are likely to far outweigh negative responses. For
many people, your genuine kindness will be an example of a way to treat
others and a way we want others to treat us. They will see in you the
traits of compassion and sympathy which they might want to focus on in
the development of their own character.

For those people you
help you will be the friend they need, there at the right moment to
help them when they've stepped into yet another thicket of pain or
confusion. They will be grateful for your listening, for your straight
talk when they need straight talk more than anything, and for the hand
you extend so they can find their way, with your help, out of whatever
tangle they've gotten themselves into.


Tuesday, January 6, 2009

Yay for Doug! And missing the words I am used to.

After talking to Kris on the phone yesterday during break I really wanted to be able to mail out the crystals for him asap.  I got out of work 10 minutes late, and paused briefly to see if the craft department had any gift bags or small wooden boxes that would be good.  My buddy Doug stopped me to chat  briefly, hugging me as always with a ciao bella, and brief exchange in italliano.  He asked what I was looking for and I told him.  So he offered to do something really really really *100 nice for me and bring me a little box for me to use when he comes into work today.  Of course that earned him a big hug and a kiss on the cheek.  He is such a good kid, and I am glad to count him as a friend. 

On another note, when I got home Kris wasn't online.  Not just that he wasn't there, he was actually not online at all.  I could sense that he wasn't home.  And while I miss him, having grown used to his words each day and seeing him on his cam constantly, I worry that he might exaust himself and make himself ill.  Perhaps I care too much to soon, but that is how I am with friends. More so with potential love intrests.

I hope he wakes up and gets online before I have to go to work.

Sunday, January 4, 2009

Too good to be true?

A few days ago I received a message on OkCupid from a guy.  I thought nothing of replying and was quickly impressed by what I read/saw.  We were soon chatting on yim with me watching his webcam.  He so far seems like everything I have been waiting for.  I have agreed to be his teacher.  I have given my vow of friendship.  We have discussed a M/s relationship being possible, and maybe a romantic one.  We were a little naughty online, and then I called him today.  I feel like I am on a precipice.  Ready to fall.  How can I be feeling so much for someone so soon?

I don't feel ready, but at the same time I want it all NOW.  I want to totally possess him.  Make him mine in every way.  I have never felt such a need to own.