Thursday, January 8, 2009

Emotional Stablility

Introduction to Emotional Stability

born with the capacity to feel deeply, so it's as natural as breathing
to experience a range of emotions. Fear and joy and sadness, anger and
shame and disgust lie somewhere within each of us. Ah, but to what
extent do we control these emotions, and to what extent do they control
us? How you answer this question of how your emotions play out in your
life has a great deal to do with your levels of personal satisfaction
and with the character of your relationships with others. Do you manage
your emotions well, keeping them in check with your thinking and your
willpower, or are you someone who lets emotions have their way, giving
in to the wild dance of feelings? The following paragraphs describe
your emotional range in terms of being a person who is emotionally
steady or someone who is responsive to whatever feelings swell up in

On Emotional Stability you are:


Words that describe you:

  • Adaptable
  • Engaged
  • Able to Cope

  • Passionate
  • Perceptive
  • Flexible

  • Receptive
  • Aware
  • Avid

A General Description of Your Reactivity

some ways, you've got the best of emotional worlds. When emotions rise
up from inside you or are brought forth from a conversation by a
friend, you know how to engage them. You deal with sadness, fear, joy,
anger - whatever comes up - in ways that are perceptive and flexible.
You can adapt to whatever level of emotion is appropriate to the
moment. At other times, you are able to cope with your emotions in a
more reserved manner. Because you are aware of what does and does not
make emotional sense in a particular situation, you will decide when it
is an appropriate time to express your emotions and when it would be
best to keep them to yourself.

All of this gives you a rich
emotional life. You are free to express your passions about certain
subjects with appropriate people. But you are also emotionally
adaptable; if the conversation needs to be more cerebral, you'll keep
it "in your head" and talk calmly through whatever issue is on the
table. This emotional awareness serves you well. You seldom get in over
your head, either by opening up to the wrong person or by triggering in
someone else's emotions they may not be able to deal with.

Negative Reactions Others May Have Toward You

it comes to dealing with emotions we all meet some people with whom we
don't match well. You bring a balanced approach to your emotional life.
As such, those who are at the extremes are most likely to have a
negative reaction to you. Those who live in their emotions may feel you
tend to "live in your head" while those who go through life as an
emotional rock may feel that you are a bit too "touchy feely" for their

And of course it is always possible that because you
do balance your emotional approach to life you may misread others - we
all do at times. So there have undoubtedly been those times when you
have misread cues and stayed in your head with someone who hoped for a
more open emotional approach or you may have opened up emotionally with
someone who keeps their emotions bottled up. But these things happen
and since you do have a good balance of being in touch with your
emotions and not being overly impacted by emotional swings, you
undoubtedly are able to adapt.

Another potential problem is
that as people get to know you well, they will discover that you have a
great balance between emotional expression and emotional control. If
they don't have this balance they may wind up envying you. They can't
express feelings as well as you, or they are too often out of emotional
control and resent you for your ability to cope so well with the very
emotions that may trip them up.

Positive Responses Others May Have Toward You

people will be grateful to find a friend like you who can stay in
control when emotions verge on chaos, but who can also go into the
tangle of emotions when it is safe and appropriate to do so. Because of
your ability to engage them at whatever level they are comfortable, to
adapt to whatever changes in emotion emerge in the conversation, and to
cope so well with all of it - well, they'll be very glad they found a
person like you. You may, in fact, wind up as something of an emotional
mentor. Your awareness of the emotional temperature of a situation,
your ability to adapt to either heat or cold, and your ability to cope
with whatever winds up happening in the conversation could be models
for them to follow as they come to terms with their own emotional

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